Comments on: http://www.sagelewis.com/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/ Husband / Father / Photographer Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:39:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: sage http://www.sagelewis.com/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/comment-page-1/#comment-122 sage Wed, 01 Feb 2006 19:14:25 +0000 http://www.grulichfamily.com/sagelewis/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/#comment-122 Hey there dude! Thanks so much for writing. If anyone was wronged, it was you. It's interesting to think about growing up. I don't consider it very often. But looking back, we were a pretty tough group... on each other. Do you remember that one kid my mom baby sat? We constantly were beating the crap out of that kid. The only "normal" family life any of us had was Timm's family (true nuclear), and he was just as messed up as the rest of us. We were all damaged. You never did anything that needs righting. We were all just trying to survive. And all in all, I think we did pretty good. Hey there dude!
Thanks so much for writing. If anyone was wronged, it was you.

It’s interesting to think about growing up. I don’t consider it very often. But looking back, we were a pretty tough group… on each other. Do you remember that one kid my mom baby sat? We constantly were beating the crap out of that kid. The only “normal” family life any of us had was Timm’s family (true nuclear), and he was just as messed up as the rest of us.

We were all damaged.

You never did anything that needs righting. We were all just trying to survive.

And all in all, I think we did pretty good.

]]> By: GeoffS http://www.sagelewis.com/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/comment-page-1/#comment-121 GeoffS Wed, 01 Feb 2006 17:09:10 +0000 http://www.grulichfamily.com/sagelewis/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/#comment-121 Interesting.. never knew, but, then again, I've never been empathetic, nor compassionate, nor forgiving, and hence never much thought about the feelings of others, ever. Yet, I expected these traits from other people. Thinking back to events from growing up, (which I may have forgotten some that you & others may not), can't think of any situation in which my presence was a positive thing. Guess, "My name is Earl" is a little too close to home sometimes.. figure, if I were to make a list, that the first hundred or so things would be stuff to make right by Sage and Clayde. Some of those things, there is no way to ever fix. Your concerns may fall on deaf ears at this moment, but things change with time, and, sometimes it takes therapy and pharmaceuticals to bring people around. If you don't have that kind of time, be blunt and whack them with a clue stick a couple of times. Who said there is nothing to fear but fear itself?, in a previous blog, your list of fears is really normal, and healthy. Something would be wrong if you didn't have the fears about marriage, and fatherhood, and Indiana. Not having fear can be far more dangerous, because you can become reckless. A normal amount of fear keeps you grounded, and rational. Which you really seem to be, and it has safely gotten you this far. If you are paranoid or phobic, obsessive about these fears, listen to the people around you.. they tend to let you know. Your good people.. there's my $.02. Interesting.. never knew, but, then again, I’ve never been empathetic, nor compassionate, nor forgiving, and hence never much thought about the feelings of others, ever. Yet, I expected these traits from other people. Thinking back to events from growing up, (which I may have forgotten some that you & others may not), can’t think of any situation in which my presence was a positive thing. Guess, “My name is Earl” is a little too close to home sometimes.. figure, if I were to make a list, that the first hundred or so things would be stuff to make right by Sage and Clayde. Some of those things, there is no way to ever fix. Your concerns may fall on deaf ears at this moment, but things change with time, and, sometimes it takes therapy and pharmaceuticals to bring people around. If you don’t have that kind of time, be blunt and whack them with a clue stick a couple of times. Who said there is nothing to fear but fear itself?, in a previous blog, your list of fears is really normal, and healthy. Something would be wrong if you didn’t have the fears about marriage, and fatherhood, and Indiana. Not having fear can be far more dangerous, because you can become reckless. A normal amount of fear keeps you grounded, and rational. Which you really seem to be, and it has safely gotten you this far. If you are paranoid or phobic, obsessive about these fears, listen to the people around you.. they tend to let you know. Your good people.. there’s my $.02.

]]> By: steveg http://www.sagelewis.com/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/comment-page-1/#comment-119 steveg Wed, 01 Feb 2006 11:01:40 +0000 http://www.grulichfamily.com/sagelewis/2006/01/31/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-when-people-might-be-angry-at-me/#comment-119 Don't confuse compassion with empathy and recognize that that sensitivity is a true virtue. You did hit a key ideal that compassion for others includes compassion for yourself. We can only do what we can do and we can always strive to try to do better. Read jack Ricchuito's blog for some good wisdom. Maybe when we get together, we'll invite Jack. Don’t confuse compassion with empathy and recognize that that sensitivity is a true virtue. You did hit a key ideal that compassion for others includes compassion for yourself. We can only do what we can do and we can always strive to try to do better.

Read jack Ricchuito’s blog for some good wisdom. Maybe when we get together, we’ll invite Jack.

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